Thursday, February 25, 2010

The Happiness Project

I recently read and enjoyed The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun.

The author, Gretchen Rubin, focused on a different area of her life each month. But she didn't forget her goals from the previous month - she rolled them forward so that by the end of the year she was trying to be happy in 12 different areas.

To begin with, she developed 12 personal commandments. They were:
1. Be Gretchen.
2. Let it go.
3. Act as I want to feel.
4. Do it now.
5. Be polite and be fair.
6. Enjoy the process.
7. Spend out.
8. Identify the problem.
9. Lighten up.
10. Do what ought to be done.
11. No calculation.
12. There is only love.

She also came up with what she called the secrets of adulthood:
The days are long, but the years are short.
Someplace, keep an empty shelf.
Turning the computer on and off a few times often fixes a glitch.
It's okay to ask for help.
You can choose what you do; you can't choose what you LIKE to do.
Happiness doesn't always make you feel happy.
What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
You don't have to be good at everything.
Soap and water removes most stains.
It's important to be nice to EVERYONE.
You know as much as most people.
Over-the-counter medicines are very effective.
Eat better, eat less, exercise more.
What's fun for other people may not be fun for you -- and vice versa.
People actually prefer that you buy wedding gifts off their registry.
Houseplants and photo albums are a lot of trouble.
If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough.
No deposit, no return.

If I was going to add one for myself, it would be:
- If you have a nagging feeling that maybe you shouldn't send an email or post something or comment on something - then WAIT. (following this rule would have saved me a lot of grief over the years)

What would you add?

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